Relationship Tips:20 things to guild you through your relationship

 1. Have a spontaneous midday trust. Send him a text as he’s about to go on his lunch break, take time out on a Saturday, however you want to play it.

2. Travel together.Seeing the world together creates amazing shared memories.

3. Tell them EXACTLY why you love and appreciate them as often as possible.
“I love you” is good. “I love the way you make sure no one ever feels left out” is even better.

4. Stay out of their family drama.It’s so not worth it.

5. Really look at each other. We spend a lot of time with our partners but sometimes we don’t actually see them. Take the time to actually look into one another’s eyes.

6. Give each other a pet name. It may be super annoying to other people (and you may want to reserve it for when you’re in private), but a pet name can add an extra layer of intimacy to your relationship.

7. Spend time alone.As important as it is to spend quality time with your partner, it’s equally necessary that you develop a good sense of who you are without them. Kahlil Gibran said “let there be spaces in your togetherness,” and we stand by that.

8. Eat at the dinner table. Do you eat in front of the TV? Try actually sitting down to a meal with your partner at an actual table. You may find it a welcome change.

9. In fact, turn the TV off all together. Why not try instituting a TV-free night in your apartment? See what else happens when you spend time together sans the talking box.

10. Ask for clarity. If you’re confused about what your partner means, ask for clarity instead of making assumptions about what they mean. Use an open phrase like, “What did you mean when you said, ‘xyz'” rather than instantly going on the offensive.

11. Own your feelings. Passive-aggressiveness is a total relationship killer. Quash it by practicing assertiveness and clarity. Saying “I’m fine” when you’re not fine is a prime example of not owning your feelings.

12. Communicate in a constructive way.For instance, we think the phrase construction “When ____ happens, it makes me feel ____” can be particularly helpful.
13. Take an interest in what your partner’s into.He’s into chess, or cheese, or cheese that looks like a chess board (maybe?). You don’t have to love it, but give it a shot. You may surprise yourself!

14. But also cultivate your own. You and your partner don’t need to have everything in common. Seriously. That’s actually really annoying.

15. Let your partner teach you something they’re good at, and vice versa.Everyone—everyone—loves the feeling of being able to teach somebody they like about something they’re good at.

16. Bring your groups together.It’s easy to silo your social lives and create separate his-and-hers worlds, but bringing your friends, siblings, or colleagues together can be a fun thing.

17. Don’t forget about sex.Work, stress, and other responsibilities can get in the way of your sex life, and before you know it, you’ve gone a month without getting busy. Don’t let this happen. Schedule it in if you have to, just make sure to connect in an intimate way.

18. But do forget about jealousy.Jealousy can be completely toxic to relationships, so keep yours in check. If you’re always jealous, figure out if it’s your personal issue, or if your partner is doing things to appear less trustworthy.

19. Cultivate your appreciation.Spread what you love about your partner. Practice your appreciation by sharing it with others— not in a gross, gratuitous, braggy way, but don’t miss out on the opportunity to tell others why your partner is awesome. In turn, it’ll remind you why you like them, too.

20. Laugh. In bed. Sex should be sexy, sure. But it should also be fun. Don’t be afraid to have a laugh if things take a turn for the ridiculous.